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In a foreign land, resided a family. There was a 12-year-old girl, who wanted visiting a friend’s home. The young girl eagerly requested her parents for permission to visit her friend’s house, hoping for an afternoon filled with laughter and companionship. However, upon reaching her friend’s residence, she discovered her friend was absent, prompting her to return home. Having a spare key, she let herself into her house, harboring an intention to surprise her parents upon their return.
Upon the parents’ arrival, their senses were heightened by an unsettling suspicion that their home had been intruded. Fear and confusion gripped the father, who, in a moment of distress, reached for a firearm. Unaware that it was their daughter within, he took a tragic and irreversible action, causing the unfathomable loss of their beloved child.
Why would a father kill her daughter?
Why does a sports man do the obvious thing to get an easy win?
We might have thought such things.
Why do we act agressively? This book is about this. Idlyaaga irungal, written by Soma Valliyappan focusses on how important is emotional quotient than intelligent quotient for success and survival.
Soma Valliyappan, an esteemed Indian author and expert in human resource management, delves deep into these psychological and emotional facets of human nature. He emphasizes the significance of emotional intelligence over mere intellectual prowess for achieving success and navigating the challenges of life.
In his book “Idlyaaga Irunthal”, Valliyappan draws insightful parallels between mastering emotional intelligence and the art of making a perfect idli. He beautifully likens patience in emotional control to the patience required in perfecting an idli, stressing the importance of delaying gratification and understanding what triggers our emotions. He has taken Dan Coleman’s book about the same topic and written it in a way which resonates with our audience.
If you ask the indian students who do you want to be like.
We would think ambani but it was R. Narayana Murty.
We tend to recognise emotinally intelligent people. The most successfull and most revered people have been emotionally inteligent people mostly. We have a script for us and when someone else critizices it and we can never accept it. These are things that test our EQ.
Valliyappan highlights how our evolutionary origins, focused on fulfilling primal needs, can influence our reasoning and responses. He explained that our brains are wired to focus on basic needs like eating and staying safe, and this can affect how we think and act. But to be smart about our emotions, we need to understand what sets us off and learn to be patient, just like waiting for the perfect idli.
Throughout our evolutionary journey, our main instincts were to survive by reproducing, eating, and staying safe. However, the neocortex, also known as the neopallium or six-layered cortex, has developed to go beyond these basic instincts. This advanced part of our brain is responsible for complex functions like understanding what we sense, thinking, directing our movements, figuring out space, and using language. It’s like an upgraded version of our brain that allows us to do more than just survive.
He advocates for a profound understanding of our emotional triggers, encouraging readers to cultivate patience and emotional resilience in their journey toward heightened emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence is like having a big toolbox for understanding feelings and using them in a good way. It’s about knowing what makes us feel different things and how to handle those feelings in a smart and kind manner.
Valliyappan’s work reminds us that true success lies not just in intellectual brilliance but in the wisdom to comprehend and master our emotions, enabling us to navigate life’s complexities with grace and resilience.